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“We don’t receive wisdom; we must discover it for ourselves after a journey that no one can take for us or spare us.”

– Marcel Proust

“One does not become fully human painlessly.”

– Rollo May

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.”

– Helen Keller

“… without darkness
Nothing comes to birth,
As without light
Nothing flowers.”

– May Sarton

“Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

– William Butler Yeats

“May your trails be crooked, winding, lonesome, dangerous, leading to the most amazing view. May your mountains rise into and above the clouds.”

– Edward Abbey

“Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

–Mary Oliver


Your curiosity in this website tells me that you are interested in the processes of human change and healing. Read on. Perhaps you are wanting to experience a relationship of honesty, insight and support. Perhaps you are looking for a nudge that will help you break certain patterns that are interfering with important spheres of your life, such as your primary relationship, work, friendships, community and/or children. If you find yourself nodding your head, keep reading. You came to the right place to seek help. Over the course of my career, I have gained experience helping individuals face a wide range of issues, including:

  • Chemical dependency (alcoholism, drug abuse/addiction, codependency)
  • Couples counseling (communication difficulties, conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, parenting, financial clarity, divorce)
  • Forgiveness counseling (addressing internal and interpersonal suffering, such as feeling victimized and resentful, stuck and unable to control people, places and things)

Please feel free to schedule an appointment, or phone me with any questions you might have. I welcome your curiosity and interest in seeking a different way to experience your life.

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Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling

My role as a couples therapist is to help you and your partner, in the safe environment of my office, to face your challenging issues and to do so with growing clarity and a sense of hope. Read more
Forgiveness Counseling

Forgiveness Counseling

Many of us already have a decent understanding of how and why we are “stuck.”  What we do not know how to do is to let go of whatever it is that is hurting us. Enter Forgiveness Counseling. Read more
Chemical Dependency Counseling

Chemical Dependency Counseling

I have been working with individuals and their families with chemical dependency issues — alcoholism and drug dependency — for twenty-five years. I trained with Stephanie Brown, Ph.D., at Stanford, using her developmental recovery model. Read more

“Dr Nick Ney is an associate of mine who has worked with me on presenting Forgive For Good workshops. He was trained in our year long forgiveness training program for therapists and has successfully led workshops on forgiveness locally and throughout the West. Dr Ney has my full confidence as a clinician and a trainer. He is a skilled therapist who has absorbed this powerful method for letting go of hurt, helplessness, and anger. I have seen his presentations help increase participant’s confidence, hope, and happiness in their daily affairs. If you find yourself battling with anger and resentment I recommend you contact Dr. Ney for help.”

– Fred Luskin, Ph.D. Author of Forgive For Good

“I had the opportunity of being supervised by Nick during my post-doc year and again as a psychological assistant. I really absorbed a lot from Nick because his presence invited collaboration and introspection. Nick’s deep insights about this human endeavor called psychotherapy will always stay with me. I think back on our weekly meetings and remember his warmth, fun attitude, and thoughtfulness. I could sense how he is as a therapist by his impact on me – I always felt respected and yet at the same time, challenged to grow.”

– Amy Greaves, Ph.D.

“I was fortunate to work for Dr. Nick Ney as a psychological assistant prior to being licensed as a clinical psychologist in private practice. Many of the attributes I so enjoyed in the mentorship I received from Nick speak to his excellence as a psychotherapist. Perhaps first and foremost, Dr. Ney is deeply compassionate and wise. Second, his presence is utterly welcoming and totally accepting. Lastly, from the depth and wealth of his experience, he always generously offered insightful, intelligent, and creative guidance and feedback regarding the healing work I was doing with my clients. I enthusiastically recommend Dr. Nick Ney, both as a psychotherapist, and as a mentor.”

– Sean Hatt, Ph.D.

“On the 10th anniversary of 9/11, our church’s youth group invited Dr. Ney to speak to our entire community about forgiveness.  His message appealed to people of all faith backgrounds and was marvelously well-received.  Even our busy teens took the time to attend, and they asked some challenging questions!  He gave us very practical advice to face our issues and learn how to come to peace.  Dr. Ney’s humble, caring manner helped us all contemplate forgiveness in a new light. ” 

– Colleen Vandevoorde, Youth MInister at St. Cyprian Church in Sunnyvale