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Couples Counseling

Interpersonal conflict is a given in life. There is no escaping it. It is often most deeply felt in close, intimate relationships, where we reveal ourselves to our partner. It is fair to say that these relationships are among the most difficult and enriching of human experience. When written in Chinese, the word “crisis” is composed of two characters. One represents “danger” and the other represents “opportunity.” This dichotomy is an apt way of describing the challenges and joys found in couple relationships. When the pain of the relationship outweighs the pleasure, help is needed to restore trust and increase the possibilities for true love and intimacy.

My role as a couples therapist is to help you and your partner, in the safe environment of my office, to face your challenging issues and to do so with growing clarity and a sense of hope. Areas I focus on: Couples Communication, Conflict Resolution, Emotional Intimacy, Nurturing Self and Other, Healthy Sexuality, Infidelity, Healthy Parenting, Avoiding Divorce, Healthy Divorce, Blended Families and Financial Clarity. I work to help you gain insight into the underlying causes of your difficulties and to develop skills that will enable you and your partner to create a satisfying and fulfilling relationship.

I welcome any questions you may have, so please feel free to contact me.

“Dr Nick Ney is an associate of mine who has worked with me on presenting Forgive For Good workshops. He was trained in our year long forgiveness training program for therapists and has successfully led workshops on forgiveness locally and throughout the West. Dr Ney has my full confidence as a clinician and a trainer. He is a skilled therapist who has absorbed this powerful method for letting go of hurt, helplessness, and anger. I have seen his presentations help increase participant’s confidence, hope, and happiness in their daily affairs. If you find yourself battling with anger and resentment I recommend you contact Dr. Ney for help.”

– Fred Luskin, Ph.D. Author of Forgive For Good

“I had the opportunity of being supervised by Nick during my post-doc year and again as a psychological assistant. I really absorbed a lot from Nick because his presence invited collaboration and introspection. Nick’s deep insights about this human endeavor called psychotherapy will always stay with me. I think back on our weekly meetings and remember his warmth, fun attitude, and thoughtfulness. I could sense how he is as a therapist by his impact on me – I always felt respected and yet at the same time, challenged to grow.”

– Amy Greaves, Ph.D.

“I was fortunate to work for Dr. Nick Ney as a psychological assistant prior to being licensed as a clinical psychologist in private practice. Many of the attributes I so enjoyed in the mentorship I received from Nick speak to his excellence as a psychotherapist. Perhaps first and foremost, Dr. Ney is deeply compassionate and wise. Second, his presence is utterly welcoming and totally accepting. Lastly, from the depth and wealth of his experience, he always generously offered insightful, intelligent, and creative guidance and feedback regarding the healing work I was doing with my clients. I enthusiastically recommend Dr. Nick Ney, both as a psychotherapist, and as a mentor.”

– Sean Hatt, Ph.D.

“On the 10th anniversary of 9/11, our church’s youth group invited Dr. Ney to speak to our entire community about forgiveness.  His message appealed to people of all faith backgrounds and was marvelously well-received.  Even our busy teens took the time to attend, and they asked some challenging questions!  He gave us very practical advice to face our issues and learn how to come to peace.  Dr. Ney’s humble, caring manner helped us all contemplate forgiveness in a new light. ” 

– Colleen Vandevoorde, Youth MInister at St. Cyprian Church in Sunnyvale